Emma Miller
Ngamanye amaxesha ukwahlukana nesoka, intombi, umyeni okanye umfazi kunokubonakala ngathi yeyona nto ilungileyo yokwenza, kuba awucingi ukuba kukho ikamva elihle naba bantu. Kodwa kufuneka uqaphele ukuba kuya kubakho enye ingxaki - indlela yokuqalisa ubudlelwane obutsha emva kokuhlukana.
Nangona kunjalo, akulula ukwenza isicwangciso sento omawuyenze xa nahlukana ukuze ungamenzakalisanga umntu omthandayo. Rhoqo ufuna ukuvula imowudi "yokungahoyi", ungacacisi nto nakubani na, kwaye uphile ubomi bakho. Kodwa ukuyibeka kancinci, oku akuyondlela ilungileyo yokuphelisa ubudlelwane nomntu, ngakumbi lowo umkhathaleleyo nokuba kuncinci.
Indlela yokuqhawula nomntu othandekayo ngokuchanekileyo - iingcebiso
Kubalulekile ukuqaphela ukuba ingcamango "yokulungileyo" yokwahlukana inxulumene kakhulu. Kufuneka kuqondwe njengemeko apho ukuhlukana kuya kuba buhlungu kakhulu kumaqela omabini.
Ukuba umntu omnye ekugqibeleni ubeke inqaku kubudlelwane, kwaye omnye, bayingxenye ebalulekileyo yobomi, musa ukulimaza lowo ufuna ukuhlukana naye, ukuba kunjalo, akunakwenzeka ukuba asebenze, kwaye ngale nto. , kufuneka wamkele. Umsebenzi wakho kwimeko enjalo kukuchaza yonke into ngokuchanekileyo.
Indlela yokuqhawula kunye nomfana omthandayo, kodwa akukho xesha elizayo - iingcebiso
Eyona nto ibalulekileyo kukuzibonisa ngokucacileyo isizathu sokuqhawuka kobudlelwane, kufuneka uyithethe ngokubandayo. Kodwa musa ukudibanisa isizathu kunye nesityholo - umsebenzi wakho awukona ukwenza indoda ixolise okanye izame ukulungisa izinto, kufuneka uchaze ukuba siyahlukana.
Indima ebalulekileyo ekuqhekekeni yindawo apho uthatha isigqibo sokwenza. Khetha inqaku elingadityaniswanga namaxesha adlulileyo, kwaye kwixesha elizayo ungadlula ngokulula.
Ekubeni sinomdla kwindlela yokuhlukana nomfana kwaye singamkhubekisi, kuyafaneleka ukukhumbula ukuba akukho meko ivunyelwe ukuba inyuke. Kufuneka uzole kwaye uzithembe. Ngaphambi kwengxoxo enzulu, kufuneka uqhelisele. Kufuneka uyazi into omawuyithethe – ibaluleke kakhulu.
Nyaniseka, bulela umntu ngenxa yazo zonke izinto ezilungileyo ezaziphakathi kwakho, kodwa musa ukuvuselela ixesha elidlulileyo - iinkumbulo ziya kwandisa kuphela ubukrakra bokuhlukana. Zonke izinto ezilungileyo kufuneka zifakwe kwibhokisi elide ukwenza indawo entsha kunye nenhle.
Okukhona nihleli nomntu kunye, kokukhona kuya kuba nzima ukukhulula yonke into ebiphakathi kwenu. Ngaphambi kokuba uhlukane nomyeni wakho, kungekhona nje isoka lakho, kungcono nokuba ubhale phantsi izizathu zokuba ufuna ukuphelisa ubudlelwane.
Oku kuya kukunceda ukuba ukhululeke kulo budlelwane ngonaphakade, kwaye kungekhona emva kwexesha elithile ukuba ubuyele kuyo kwaye kwixesha elizayo ukukhangela indlela yokuphuma kwakhona, ukugqiba ukuhlukana, ngenxa yokuba ukunganeliseki akuzange kuhambe ndawo.
Indlela yokuqhawula kunye nomfazi - iingcebiso
Ukohlukana nomntu obhinqileyo akwahlukanga nokuvalelisa endodeni. Kwibhinqa, kwakhona, unokuchaza yonke into ngokuchanekileyo - ungabonisi iintsilelo, ugxininise into yokuba umphefumlo wakhe wokwenene uhambahamba kwindawo ethile kwaye uyamkhumbula.
Indlela yokwahlukana nomfana ngomyalezo obhaliweyo - into ekufuneka uyazi
Ukuba ubudlelwane abunzulu, ngoko yonke into inokuchazwa ngaphandle kwentlanganiso yomntu. Kodwa musa ukulibala eyona nto ibalulekileyo - kufuneka ucacise isizathu sokuhlukana. Ngoko uya kusindisa umfana kwintloko - akayi kucinga ukuba kutheni wenze njalo. Khumbula nje - musa ukulimaza iimvakalelo zendoda, umsebenzi wakho kukuchaza, kungekhona ukuhlazisa.
Indlela yokuqhawula intle - amabinzana anokunceda ukuthetha kakuhle
La mabinzana anokukunceda ukuba ugcwalise ikhefu elingathandekiyo ngexesha lokwahlukana:
- Ngelixa ukunye nam, uthando lwakho lokwenyani lukhala nje ngesithukuthezi.
- Ungachithi ixesha lakho kunye nam, uya kufumana okuninzi okuya phambili ngaphandle “kwesutikheyisi engenasiphatho.”
- Loo mlilo ubusezintliziyweni zethu ujike waluthuthu. Lixesha lokususa uthuthu.
- Siphila kwindalo enye encinci - lixesha lokwandisa i-horizons yethu.
- Akukho nto yenzekayo, sanika omnye nomnye amaqhekeza emiphefumlo yethu kwaye saba ziinguqulelo ezingcono zethu.
Ibinzana elimnandi, elisetyenziswe ngexesha elifanelekileyo, linokunceda ukulungisa izinto.
