Crystal Nelson
Malunga nezigidi ezithathu zaseJamani zinengxaki yokutya. Ukuza kuthi ga ngoku, ichaphazele kakhulu abasetyhini abancinci. Kodwa ngoku iingcali zivakalisa i-alamu: abafazi abangaphezu kweminyaka engama-30 baya bexakeka ngakumbi ngokunciphisa umzimba.
“Ewe, bendinengxaki yokutya!” UGundis Zámbó wenze imixholo ephambili ngesi sivumo. Umsasazi uphethwe yi-bulimia iminyaka engama-23. Wazifaka kuye izixa ezikhulu zokutya, kodwa waphinda wakuphosa kwakhona emva koko. Kuye, yonke into yayijikeleza ekutyeni. Ndandifile ngaphakathi, ndingasenabo ubomi bokwenyani.
Ukuvuma okumangalisayo komfazi onamava, ophumelelayo, onomtsalane. Ukuza kuthi ga ngoku, i-anorexia kunye ne-bulimia zigqalwa njengezifo eziqhelekileyo zolutsha. Okwangoku, nangona kunjalo, abafazi abaninzi ngakumbi nangaphezulu kwe-30 bawela kwi-mania ebhityileyo: Kuphela abo bahle, abahle kakhulu - kunye nabancinci kakhulu bayathandwa. Iinkwenkwezi zikhokela indlela: UVictoria Beckham, kunye nomgca kumhlaba, uthathwa njengentombazana eqaqambileyo kunye nesitayile somfanekiso ngokugqwesileyo. Owayesakuba nguBohlen uNadja Abd El Farrag wakhanyela ukuphazamiseka kwakhe kokutya ixesha elide. Kwaye kunye nenkanyezi yaseHollywood u-Angelina Jolie unokubona indlela ahamba ngayo kwaye eyancipha.
Abasetyhini bafuna ukubamba ubutsha babo
“Ihlabathi lethu namhlanje ligxile kakhulu kubutsha. Amabhinqa afuna ukubamba ulutsha lwawo ngomzimba omncinane,” utsho njalo isazi ngengqondo saseUnited States uGqr. Ellen Schor Haimoff. “Ukongezelela koko, boyika ixesha elizayo lokuyeka ukuya exesheni ngenxa yokuba imizimba yabo iyatshintsha, yaye baya betyeba. Kwaye abanakuyilawula loo nto. Ke bazama ngamandla abo onke ukuhlala bebhityile.”
Abo bachaphazelekayo badla ngokuba sembandezelweni ixesha elide. Abaninzi babesoloko bezifumanisa betyebe kakhulu xa bekwishumi elivisayo kwaye bazigcina besitya ukutya okugqithisileyo de ukuncipha komzimba kwaba likhoboka. "Iminyaka elishumi ukuya kwe-20 kamva, izigulana ezisuka emva koko ziphinde zibe ngamaxhoba kwakhona," utsho u-Inge Mick wengqondo evela kwi-"Cinderella", iqela lesenzo saseMunich malunga nokutya kunye ne-anorexia.
UGundis Zámbó naye wazibonela indlela ekunzima ngayo ukuphepha ukubhitya: “Ndandicinga izihlandlo ezininzi ukuba ndiyoyisa i<em>bulimia ndaza ndayivakalisa ngokuzingca ngayo. Kodwa ndaphinda ndaphinda.” Kwakutheni ukuze angene kwi-maelstrom encinci? “Emazantsi entliziyo, ukuzithanda kwanditya. Uloyiko lokutyeba kakhulu kwaye ngoko akwanelanga. Andizange ndizithande kangangeminyaka engama-23.”
USabine L. (igama elitshintshiweyo ngumhleli) uye walwa ne-anorexia iminyaka engama-30. “Ebudeni boqeqesho lwam njengegcisa lamazinyo, omnye endisebenza naye wayendidlakazelisa ngokwesini ngokuphindaphindiweyo. Kwakunganyamezeleki tu. Ngelo xesha ndandifuna yonke into – ndingabi ngumfazi,” itsho le nzalelwane yaseBremen. Kwaye wayenza: okukhona wayesitya kancinci, umzimba wakhe ubonakala umbalwa obhinqileyo.
Abantu abane-bulimia abanakunandipha ubufazi babo
Xa wayeneminyaka engama-22 ubudala, waya ekliniki okokuqala. “Emva koko, ndaphila ixeshana. Kodwa ndathi ndakuba nestres kwakhona, andizange nditye.” Wabandezeleka kakhulu ebudeni bokukhulelwa kwakhe kabini. “Kuba ngequbuliso andizange ndikwazi ukuwulawula umzimba wam kwakhona.” Ngokukhawuleza nje bakuba abantwana belunyulwe, i<em>anorexia yaphinda yabafumana. Ude abe nobunzima bekhilogram ezingama-49 kuphela – kwi-1.72 m ubude. Andizange ndikwazi ukuzibamba.
Inye into, ngokukodwa, eyenza kube nzima ukuphuma: ukuthula. Ngokukodwa, abafazi abangaphezu kweminyaka engama-35 bahlala bengafuni ukuvuma ukuba banengxaki yokutya. Ngenxa yokuba awusakwenzi oko kwiminyaka yabo,” ucacisa ngelitshoyo isazi ngengqondo sika-“Cinderella” uIngrid Mick. Ngoku kukho amaqela amathathu "35plus" kwisangqa sawo sokusebenza.
Ukubhala yayiyeyona ndlela yonyango ibalaseleyo kaGundis Zámbó. Kwincwadi yakhe wachaza intlungu yakhe ngendlela engaqhelekanga: “Namhlanje ndiphilile.” Kwakhona uSabine L. uye wafunda ukuthetha ngokuphandle nge<em>anorexia yakhe: “Ekugqibeleni ndiziva ndonwabile, ndiyabunandipha ubufazi bam.” Kodwa naye uyazi: Kukukhobokisa ekufuneka ndisilwe ngokuphindaphindiweyo. Kwaye ngoku ndiyakwazi.
