Emma Miller
Amantombazane amaningi anethemba lokuthi uma esethole isigxivizo kumapasi awo, amadoda azoshintsha aqale ukuwasiza endlini. Nokho, akunjalo.
Ukuhlangana kwesimanje kowesilisa nowesifazane kusho ukuhlukaniswa kwemithwalo yemfanelo kukho konke, kuhlanganise nekhaya. Ngaphezu kwalokho, uma indoda yenqaba ukwenza okuthile ngendlu, kungcono ukungakhi ubuhlobo obunzima naye.
Ubalule ukuthi usebone abesifazane abaningi bethi abayeni babo abawenzi umsebenzi wabo wasekhaya. Umbhali unxuse abesifazane ukuthi bangakubekezeleli ukuziphatha okunjalo.
“Uma isoka lakho lingazibandakanyi ngendlela efanayo emsebenzini wasekhaya, ungalishadi futhi uzigwebe ngempilo yobuntombi. Ungacabangi ukuthi uzothatha izintambo ngokushesha nje lapho ushada, futhi ungacabangi neze ukuthi lapho nje umntwana esezelwe uzosukuma,” kusho owesifazane.
Ngokusho kwakhe, uma owesifazane ekhuluma ngokucacile inkinga kumuntu futhi engashintshi ukuziphatha kwakhe, ngokuqinisekile ngeke akushintshe lapho imithwalo yemfanelo eyengeziwe ifika empilweni yakhe.
Lesi sihloko sibonakale sisebenza kakhulu kwabaningi futhi sabangela ingxoxo eshubile kanye negagasi lezindaba ezivela kokuhlangenwe nakho komuntu siqu kwabesifazane abaningi. Abanye bathe baphoxekile bashiya amadoda abo uma engabasizi ngemisebenzi yasendlini. Abaningi bakwazi ukuthola amadoda okwakungeyona inkinga kuwo umsebenzi onjalo. Abanye bathi uma indoda ivumela lolu hlobo lokuziphatha, kuyiphutha lowesifazane.
“Ngemva kweminyaka engu-10 yokucasuka okukhulu nokucindezeleka, zibuze: “Kungani engasasizi?” Ukwamukela nokubekezelela ukuziphatha kwakhe okubi akubakhuthazi ngempela laba bafana ukuba bashintshe. Bayazi ukuthi awukhohlisi uma usabisa ngokushiya ngoba kungani ungahambanga eminyakeni engu-5 edlule kuyilapho ningenazo izingane ezimbili ndawonye uma kungamukeleki, uyazi?”, kuphawula umsebenzisi oteketiswa nge-tugboat.
