Crystal Nelson
Cishe amaJalimane ayizigidi ezintathu ahlushwa ukuphazamiseka kwemikhuba yokudla. Kuze kube manje, isithinte kakhulu abesifazane abasebasha. Kodwa manje ochwepheshe bahlaba umkhosi: abesifazane abangaphezu kweminyaka engama-30 baya ngokuya bekhathazeka kakhulu ngokunciphisa umzimba.
“Yebo, benginenkinga yokudla!” UGundis Zámbó waba sematheni ngalokhu kuvuma izono. Umethuli wezinhlelo uhlaselwe yi-bulimia iminyaka engu-23. Wazifaka phakathi kwakhe inqwaba yokudla, kodwa waphinde wakuphonsa futhi ngemva kwalokho. Kuye, yonke into yayigxile ekudleni. “Ngangifile ngaphakathi, ngingasekho ukuphila kwangempela.”
Izivumo ezimangalisayo zowesifazane osekhulile, ophumelelayo, okhangayo. Kuze kube manje, i-anorexia ne-bulimia kuye kwabhekwa njengezifo zasendulo zentsha. Okwamanje, nokho, bayanda abesifazane abangaphezu kweminyaka engama-30 abawela emcabangweni omncane: Yilabo kuphela abahle, abahehayo - nabancane kakhulu abathandwayo. Izinkanyezi zihamba phambili: UVictoria Beckham, kanye nomugqa endaweni, uthathwa njengentombazane ebukekayo nesithonjana sesitayela ngokugqwesa. Owayekade ka-Bohlen uNadja Abd El Farrag waphika ukuthi wayenenkinga yokudla isikhathi eside. Futhi ngesihlabani saseHollywood u-Angelina Jolie ungabona ukuthi uya ngokuncipha futhi abe mncane kangakanani.
Abesifazane bafuna ukubamba ubusha babo
“Umhlaba wethu namuhla ugxile kakhulu ebusheni. Abesifazane bafuna ukubamba ubusha babo ngomzimba omncane,” kusho isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo saseMelika uDkt. Ellen Schor Haimoff. “Ngaphezu kwalokho, bayesaba ukunqamuka kokuya esikhathini okuzayo ngoba imizimba yabo iyashintsha, futhi bayakhuluphala. Futhi abakwazi ukulawula lokho. Ngakho bazama ngawo wonke amandla abo ukuhlala bezacile.”
Uvivinyo olude luvame ukuba ngemva kwalabo abathintekile. Abaningi babehlale bezithola bekhuluphele kakhulu besebasha futhi bedla ukudla okweqile kwaze kwaba yilapho ukuncipha komzimba kuba umlutha. "Eminyakeni eyishumi kuya kwengu-20 kamuva, iziguli zangaleso sikhathi ziphinde zibe izisulu," kusho isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo u-Inge Mick we-"Cinderella", iqembu laseMunich eliphathelene nokudla kanye ne-anorexia.
UGundis Zámbó naye wezwa indlela okunzima ngayo ukubalekela ukuwohloka komzimba omncane: “Ngacabanga izikhathi eziningana ukuthi ngiyinqobile i-bulimia futhi ngamemezela ngokuziqhenya. Kodwa ngaphindela emuva.” Kungani engene ku-maelstrom emincane? “Ekujuleni kwenhliziyo, ukungabaza kwaququda. Ukwesaba ukukhuluphala ngokweqile ngakho-ke akwanele. Sekuphele iminyaka engu-23 ngingazithandi.”
USabine L. (igama elishintshwe umhleli) ubelokhu elwa ne-anorexia iminyaka engu-30. “Ngesikhathi ngiqeqeshelwa ukuba nguchwepheshe wamazinyo, uzakwethu wangihlukumeza ngokocansi ephindelela. Kwakungabekezeleleki. Ngaleso sikhathi ngangifuna yonke into - hhayi nje ukuba ngowesifazane,” kusho lo mdabu waseBremen. Futhi wakwenza: lapho edla kancane, umzimba wakhe wawubonakala ukuncipha kwabesifazane.
Abantu abane-bulimia abakwazi ukujabulela ubufazi babo
Lapho eneminyaka engu-22, weza emtholampilo okokuqala ngqa. “Ngemva kwalokho ngaba kahle isikhathi eside. Kodwa lapho nje ngiba nengcindezi futhi, angibange ngidle.” Wahlupheka kakhulu phakathi nokukhulelwa kwakhe kabili. “Ngoba ngokuzumayo angibange ngisakwazi ukulawula umzimba wami.” Lapho nje izingane sezilunyuliwe, i-anorexia yaphinde yabathola. Waze waba nesisindo esingamakhilogremu angama-49 kuphela - ubude bakhe bungu-1.72 m. “Angikwazanga ukuzibamba.”
Into eyodwa, ikakhulukazi, eyenza kube nzima ukuphuma: ukuthula. “Ikakhulukazi, abesifazane abaneminyaka engaphezu kuka-35 abalokothi bavume ukuthi banenkinga yokudla. Ngoba awusakwenzi lokho ngeminyaka yabo,” kuchaza isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo se-“Cinderella” u-Ingrid Mick. Manje sekunamaqembu amathathu "35plus" kumbuthano wawo wesenzo.
Ukubhala kwakuyindlela yokwelapha engcono kakhulu ye-Gundis Zámbó. Encwadini yakhe wachaza usizi lwakhe ngendlela engathandeki: “Namuhla ngiphulukisiwe.” USabine L. uye wafunda ukukhuluma ngokukhululekile nge-anorexia yakhe: “Ekugcineni ngizizwa ngikahle, ngingabujabulela ubufazi bami.” Kodwa futhi uyazi: Kuwumlutha okufanele ngilwe nawo ngokuphindaphindiwe. Futhi manje sengingakwazi.
